ADA APA DENGAN PUTUS CINTA?

Life is a learning process. Berapa teruk pengalaman cinta yang lepas telah memberi parut pada anda? Did you learn anything?

Setelah lama menjalinkan kasih, cinta yang putus di tengah jalan akan terasa amat menyeksakan. Anda lemas dalam udara. Fikiran yang kosong terasa menyesakkan. Anda terbakar dalam hujan dan hati membeku di bawah terik mentari. Perkara-perkara kecil yang mengingatkan anda kepada si dia membuatkan anda menangis. Siang dan malam berlalu tanpa sebarang erti. Mengapa begitu? Impak cinta amat besar kerana cinta merupakan motivasi yang hebat.

MORAL
Cinta boleh menjadi moral seseorang. Dalam ketenteraan, moral bermaksud pembakar semangat. Kebanyakan kita menjadikan orang tersayang sebagai moral untuk berusaha lebih gigih dalam pekerjaan, pelajaran, perniagaan dan apa lagi. Insan ini memberikan anda motivasi untuk berjuang. Barangkali jua anda melakukan pengorbanan ini semua untuknya. Orang yang bermotivasi tinggi, juga memiliki impian yang tinggi. Jadi apabila anda hilang moral, anda merasakan hilang semangat, dan mula menyaksikan impian anda menghempas bumi.

PERTAHANKAN ISTANA IMPIAN
Justeru, anda harus berwaspada, kesedihan dan lemah semangat akan menumpulkan kreativiti. Oleh kerana asas impian tersebut adalah insan teristimewa ini, anda mula melihat hasrat hancur lesap apabila si dia tidak lagi menyokong istana kayangan anda berdua. Anda silap sebenarnya, anda sepatutnya membayangkan anda membina istana itu dengan lebih baik lagi! Lindungi istana anda yang tidak bersalah!

Belajarlah memperbaiki diri sendiri melalui pengalaman. Setiap kali perkara buruk berlaku, belajar untuk memperbaiki keadaan pada masa akan datang. Sesetengah perkara adalah takdir di luar kemampuan kita untuk mengubahnya. Itu tidak mengapa, tuhan itu lebih mengetahui apa yang di lakukannya. Tetapi anda tidak boleh menyerah diri pada arus takdir semata-mata, dambakan kasih-Nya dalam satu impian yang lebih baik. Dalam hidup ini, tuhan menemukan anda dengan beberapa pilihan yang salah supaya anda menghargai orang yang betul. Pengalaman akan mematangkan seseorang. Memiliki insan tersebut bukan satu jaminan bahagia. Bahagia itu datang apabila anda teruskan menciptanya dulu, sekarang dan akan datang.

WE'LL CARRY ON!
Si dia barangkali tidak akan kembali. Namun haruskah anda berteka-teki dan terus mengharap kepulangannya? Jika anda masih mengekorinya secara sembunyi-sembunyi, anda masih tidak teruskan kehidupan. You have not moved on yet and he/she is still holding you back. Tanya pada diri sendiri, anda semakin resah dan terseksa atau sudah boleh teruskan hidup dengan tenang selepas mengendap begini? Come on, carry on with your life.

PILIH UNTUK TIDAK MENYESAL
Tahukah anda, anda sebenarnya boleh memilih untuk tidak menyesal? Anda boleh memilih untuk tidak menyesal di atas apa yang terjadi! Tumpukan seluruh fikiran kepada keputusan yang di buat, percaya dengan NEKAD bahawa ia bukan satu keputusan untuk di kesalkan dan berazam untuk memiliki hidup yang baik. PILIHLAH UNTUK TIDAK MENYESAL KERANA MEMILIH HIDUP YANG LEBIH BAIK SELEPAS INI. Sedikit demi sedikit, anda sudah tidak mengekorinya (anda mengekorinya tak?), tidak lagi menangis sendirian, tidak sensitif dan cepat sembuh dari duka.

Maafkanlah segala yang terjadi, jangan menyimpan rasa sakit hati untuk dibawa ke hari esok dan kemudian hari. Anda mesti belajar meninggalkan kenangan lalu jika mahu teruskan hidup.

Law of Attraction - How it Works?

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne reveals that the only one law rules our life and that is the Law of Attraction. So what do this Law of Attraction tells us? How does it work?

Actually, the speakers in the movie, The Secret, will be launching a home seminar called The Science of Getting Rich. They would discuss more on the Law of Attraction and how to apply it in our daily lives. But basically, the movie states that we can interact with the universe.

Many would ask how? The answer is simple. The universe is made up of energy, and we are also made up of energy. In fact we are spiritual in nature. Our main components are atom and these atoms are made up of energy. It is very hard to explain but this is what the movie tells us. We are composed of energy that can interact with each other.

We can interact with the universe around us. If only that we focus our selves on the good feelings that we have, we are telling the universe to attract all the positive things to us in order for us to rich our dreams. If we focus on the bad side of our life, we are telling the universe about these bad and negative things, so it would always attract our lives. The law of attraction is very simple. Just focus on the things that can make us happy and we will attract good things to come into our life. We may think that it is impossible but there is nothing to lose by thinking positively, right?

To understand more on this issue, just watch the movie The Secret and I can assure you it can change your outlook in life.

Marching the Black Parade

When I was A young boy, My father Took me into the city To see a marching band. He said, "Son when You grow up, Would you be The saviour of the broken, The beaten and the damned?"~song: Welcome to The Black Parade,by My Chemical Romance.

This song, as described by gerard when he recently appeared on fuse, says the man in the song, they called the patient, is dying in a hospital. And his most treasured memory was when his father took him to a parade when he was a young boy. And gerard says he believes that when you die, death comes to you in any form you want it to. So as this man is dying, remembering his father and the parade, death comes to him as a black parade~ by anonymous

is it hard when the love one is leaving? let it be our little child, spouse, mother, father or if we ourself are in the process of leaving the love one behind.

fear of death.

i have no intention to write about motivation for this post. tell me how you or the people you love encounter death.

I DARE YOU

by Oscar Bruce

The world at large steals your youthful enthusiasm and unbridled confidence , piece by piece, bit by bit. Fiends and relatives throw sand in your dream machine. They've conformed to the pressures to become ordinary, and insisted you do the same. They compromised by downsizing their dreams and restricting their field of vision.

I DARE YOU to free your mind from these cultural constraints. To RESIST the pressure to become ordinary. To IGNORE those who give you're their version of why you can not rise above mediocrity.

I WANT TO CHALLENGE YOU to free yourself from the shackles of your past conditioning. To break the chains that bind you to false beliefs about what you can do with your life.

I DARE YOU to aim at something worthy of the best that is in you. I maintain that you are a better, more capable person than you have experienced so far, or that others have led you to believe you are.

TODAYS PREVAILING IDEOLOGY IS NOT SELF IMPROVEMENT. It is self preservation. People no longer dream of surmounting difficulties to gain all they desire. Most people live in complete servitude to the "survival mentality". They hope merely for "coping".

I AM PROMISING YOU that living aggressively changes the whole complexion of life. Not until you dare to attack will you master your fears completely. Suddenly you step into a new world of adventure. Horizons are pushed back on all sides. Opportunities open up that were previously unseen. The sleeping giant within you is stirred and awakened. On that priceless day you will discover that have a new power. The power to rise above the lives of those around you.

CHALLENGES ARE THE STUFF OF LIFE. Going after what you want, pursuing what is important to you. Everybody loves to be a winner, a star, a hero. Nobody want to be a loser, a failure. Americans love to be number one.

IT IS THE BASIC NATURE OF MAN TO ACHIEVE. To explore the full potential of the human spirit. Deep down in every heart is the desire to be somebody, to get somewhere, to be respected. Every individual yearns to make something of his or her life.

NO PERSON CAN BE HAPPY unless they are expressing their inherent potential, fully and completely. A life that satisfies is impossible without a sense of achievement and fulfillment.

THE BRAIN NEEDS OBJECTIVES. Most of us begin our journey with no end in mind. Then one day we find ourselves somewhere we don't want to be and don't have a clue how we got there. Nothing diminishes a life more than nowhere to go. A mind with idle time and nowhere to go becomes filled with contradiction and doubt. Nothing enriches a life like being a part of something big.

THINK WHAT IT WILL MEAN TO YOU to possess the calm assurance that you are one of the few people in the world who know exactly where they are going and how they are going to get there - and that attainment is only a matter of time. That you have something to believe in , a mission that gives purpose to your life. Your days filled with meaningful tasks.

I DARE YOU to think bigger, to act bigger and to become bigger and I promise you a richer life, a more exciting life. The rewards for daring in this world teaming with opportunity were never so rich or so plentiful. Science, business, education are all looking for rare individuals who dare to face life creatively and aggressively. Who dare to attach, rather than to defend or compromise.

IS WHAT YOU HAVE NOW, WORTH WHAT YOU MIGHT BE MISSING?

I DARE you to stop putting conditions on the word commitment and dedication. I dare you to stop putting limitations on your dreams

Can You Handle Deferred Success?

Are you willing to fail to the point of success?

No! Well you should be.

Failure is what leads to success; it is proof of action. All your efforts that lead to failure should be praised and rewarded, for they are moving you in the direction of the success.

In all areas of life, the people who are forging ahead with progress are the ones willing to fail, because they know enough failures lead to success. They know that success is just being deferred with each failure, not prevented.

The only way to surely fail is to stop attempting. If you fail twice and give up, you can now be sure you will not succeed. But you are the one placing the guarantee on it not the situation.

The key is to just keep going.

Thomas Edison sought failure eagerly, he knew with each failure he was a little closer to a solution. The faster he failed, the sooner he got to the prize.


Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. - - Winston Churchill


When the results don't come out as you want it's time to review what transpired then determine a new adjusted plan of action.

There is a success called plan called, plan, do, review, which is self explanatory and simple. But this basic process repeated over and over will bring you closer and closer to the intended result. Implement this simple process I everything you do and you will see two things. You will start to embrace the natural process of discovery and understanding, and you will see success.

Fear is one of our worst enemies when it comes to success. In two ways many people allow fear to defeat them.

One, the fear of failure right from the beginning prevents them from even get started. They are so concerned about what could possibly go wrong that even getting started is too hard. Second, they allow the fear of continual failure to become stronger than their convictions and drive. They allow their fears to meld with worry to sabotage their intentions.


There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure. - -Paulo Coelho


So what does it take to overcome these fears?

1- Determination--Having a very strong drive and focus on the desired result helps to keep one strong through adversity. In the classic book "Think And Grow Rich", Napolean Hill said you needed to develop a white-hot heated burning desire to succeed. When this burning desire becomes strong enough it will override the disappointments of interim setbacks, giving you the drive to persist.

2- Perception--A key trait of the people who can accept failure and forge through it, is they don't see failure as the end. Rather they look at it as a learning opportunity, a point to assess, adjust and go again. How you perceive something and interpret it determines how you allow it to effect you. And this is certainly the case with the fear of failure. The person who can continue through setbacks is one who sees them as momentary not permanent.

3- Self-concept--How you see yourself in terms of your right, ability and worthiness to be doing something can effect your confidence behind your pursuits. It is very helpful to come to a point where you know you are worthy of your desired goal. Know that you are just a worthy as anyone else and that delays and failures along the way are not signs that you don't deserve it. They are merely the means of discovery that everyone experiences. Work on yourself, develop a strong high self-esteem and you will be able to weather the storm.


If you want something bad enough you should be willing to stick with it to the point where there are no more failure options.

Failure really is a good thing. The people who fail the most win the most. I'm sure you have heard before that Babe Ruth with his home run record also holds the record for the most strikeouts. How can this be? Well, more strikeouts show more opportunities for homeruns. If he did not have all the opportunities to keep attempting home runs, he would never have hit them.

More attempts mean more strikeouts and more homeruns. Thomas Edison utilized this principle also, he was relentless and conducted experiments at a fast pace in order to get through the learning and adjusting phase quickly. He knew it was just how the process worked. There was no master conspiracy against him making things more difficult, just the natural process.

Both of these men knew that success was merely deferred, not impossible.


Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. - -Denis Waitley


Don't get mad, don't get disappointed, just keep going.

Focus your sights in the target and don't let the failures deter you. Visualize the things that don't go according to plan as deferred success, success only delayed for a while. Don't allow failure to be guaranteed by quitting. The success is there, you just need to properly align yourself with it and this may take a few or even many attempts. Are you determined to have a resolve stronger than the setbacks?

It comes down to choice, are you going to succumb to the roadblocks or are you going to take command of your personal growth and choose to learn from the failures? Will you continue to readjust and keep going at it until you eliminate all the reasons why not?


I believe that one of the characteristics of the human race - possibly the one that is primarily responsible for its course of evolution - is that it has grown by creatively responding to failure. Glen Seaborg - American Scientist & Nobel Laureate


About the Author:
John Halderman Smash stress, anxiety & depression -build self-esteem, self-confidence, motivation, change habits and experience success and happines. Model known success traits. http://www.designalifesystem.com/modelsuccess.html

MANUAL CARA MENGGUNAKAN FOLDER BULLSH*T

Terima kasih kerana telah mempraktikkan konsep folder bullsh*t. Tahniah kerana anda tidak membiarkannya kosong dan segera mengisinya dengan fail-fail yang berkaitan. Usaha tersebut sangat baik berbanding membiarkannya bersepah-sepah tanpa sebarang tujuan. Jika anda tidak bercadang memasukkan kata2-kata negatif, ejekan dan caci nista itu ke dalam kategori ini, tidak mengapa. Anda cuma di nasihatkan supaya tidak mencampur-adukkan elemen tersebut dengan aspek-aspek kepercayaan diri, kekuatan semangat, keupayaan berdaya saing serta sikap-sikap yang betul bagi orang yang berjaya.

Folder ini boleh di manfaatkan supaya ia tidak di simpan sebagai pekasam dan di lupakan. Jika anda tahu menggunakannya dengan betul, komen-komen yang boleh membunuh semangat anda dapat memberi banyak faedah dan pengertian baru. Kadang-kala, kata-kata yang menghiris kalbu hanya menambah pedih luka lama. Bila lah sakit nak sembuh, pemikiran pun masih di takuk lama kalau luka lama asyik berdarah kembali. Barangkali itu berlaku kerana anda tidak tahu meletak kritikan di tempat yang betul.

Penggunaan folder tersebut ada dua cara mengikut amalan para jutawan seperti yang berikut:

KAEDAH #1: Jangan mempedulikan semua tohmahan dan kritikan pedas yang dilemparkan.
Anda tahu mereka tidak senang dengan kejayaan dan perubahan yang anda cuba lakukan. Idea anda itu melangkaui kebiasaan dan anda mungkin seminggu dua ini sedang bersikap ‘luar biasa’ berbicara ala-ala mat jenin, melangkaui graf normal ‘buang tebiat’. Manusia ini cenderung untuk melihat seseorang itu dengan identiti lama, identity yang biasa di kenalinya. Biarkan mereka dengan kejengkelan mereka. Sebahagiannya pula mungkin tidak sebijak anda. Janganlah anda cepat merajuk hati. Orang lain mungkin tidak faham apa yang anda lakukan kerana tidak celik ilmu, tiada pendedahan dan kurang kesedaran sivik. Anda tentu dapat mengendalikan orang-orang begini dengan lebih baik. Elakkan berprasangka buruk dengan orang lain.

Kaedah #2: Menjadikan kata-kata negatif sebagai inspirasi.
Anda boleh memanfaatkan kata-kata cemuhan sebagai aspirasi dan pembakar semangat. Ia menjadi faktor yang mendorong anda berusaha lebih gigih mencapai matlamat. Zahirkan kata2 tersebut melalui tulisan, lukisan, foto seseorang atau apa saja. Niatkan ia sebagai pencetus semangat untuk lebih berusaha, bukan untuk amalan bomoh hitam atau dendam kesumat. Hati-hati dengan dendam kerana itu tempat bertenggek syaitan.

Bila anda menzahirkannya, anda lebih fokus. Tiap kali hati terasa malas, minda terasa letih dan tujuan sudah lalai, kata-kata pedas ini membuat semangat anda terbakar semula. Tidak rugi menulisnya untuk motivasi diri. Anda mungkin akan tersenyum membacanya suatu hari nanti.

Di harap manual ringkas ini memudahkan anda untuk menyusun perkara-perkara penting dalam hidup anda mengikut keutamaan. Bagi sesetengah orang, melupakan kata-kata yang menyakitkan hati, layanan buruk orang lain serta pengalaman yang pahit itu sungguh sukar di lakukan. Kebanyakan kita juga begitu. Tetapi, mereka ini tidak dapat memaafkan orang lain, dan tidak pula dapat memajukan diri sendiri. Satu pembaziran potensi kerana mereka terlalu menumpukan pada kelemahan, bukan kekuatan mereka.

THE BULLSH*T FOLDER: Critics Management Files

The ‘bullsh*t’ folder contains a lot of critics and negative statements made by other people about us. It is a folder keeping separated records about whom, where, what had been said and when did the verbal offense happened which does not interfere with other positive thinking databases.

I attended a motivational speech delivered by an MLM millionaire, and the energetic speaker asked the audience what excuses people made when they were invited into the business? What do people say to those whom involved in the business? Not enough time, not enough money, too risky, can’t speak in front of the public, too shy, too short, too square, too oblong, the list adds on quickly until there was almost 44 excuses and negative remarks listed.

Then he strikethrough every single word and said, “these are bullsh*t. They are what?”
The excited crowd replied powerfully, “BULLSH*T!!!”

Now, I might seems like enjoying myself reciting that word too frequent, they are not top paying adsense keyword, but my message here is to make strong impression on the ‘type of folder’. Some people bring your motivation down because they can’t see how you can become better than them. Some felt as if your dream are attacking or challenging them, and they can’t imagine you become better than before, as well as better than them. So save those words in your memory, it is something as important as bullsh*t.

What make a sustainable self development is always think optimistically, despite of what other people tell you. Wealth and success are no genetic engineering; the millionaire has to fight for their goals because someone labeled them as ‘average or less ability’. They think of success instead of failure, and they practice believing in themselves as well as hard work to reduce fear. They ignore critisms and built a very competitive spirit to in the money game.

Just like my sergeant always told us, “kena marah, maki, belasah tu semua, hujung kentut je, faham?”

“FAHAM, STAPPP!!!”

sesuatu yang peribadi

kali ini, utk post ini, coretan saya adalah sedikit peribadi. ia adlah refleks kpd apa yg saya alami dgn situasi semasa yg berlaku d sekeliling. im feeling sentimental right now.

blog ini adalah satu dedikasi peribadi kepada semua rakan2 blogger dan pembaca di luar sana. saya mempunyai keinginan yg kuat untuk berkongsi pengalaman dan pengajaran yg berguna yg saya perolehi berdasarkan kesilapan2 yang saya lakukan. ini semua bertujuan untuk memberi panduan untuk menghadapi kesukaran dgn lebih baik, berfikiran optimis dan mengatasi konflik lebih baik dari apa yang saya alami. kadang kala, hati yang rawan akan tercari2 tempat bergantung, tercari2 nasihat yg lebih peribadi dan tempat yang lapang untuk menenangkan fikiran. apabila kita sudah mengetahui rahsia kejayaan, kesusahan itu menjadi lubang peluang yg hanya diri sendiri dapat melihatnya.

saya tertarik dgn perincian pembaca2 blog ini yg saya dapati melalui MyBlogLog. adakah anda tahu, melalui mybloglog, saya blh tahu dari mana pembaca datang, apa yg mereka baca dan apa yg mereka klik? [tapi jgn gusar, saya tidak tahu siapa anda, siapa yg klik apa atau sebarang maklumat tentang personaliti anda :) ].

kebanyakan pembaca yang melawat blog saya adalah rakan2 mybloglog.sebahagiannya teman2 bicarajutawan.com dan pelawat mereka. yang menarik perhatian saya ialah pembaca yang datang ke dare To Fail melalui search engine.

Saya selalu akan memerhati dari mana dan apa mereka taip di Google search engine sampai datang ke mari. Anda tahu apa yg mereka taip di search engine? baru2 ini ada yg taip 'kisah2 islam.download', 'bisnes kecil2an', 'jutawan senyap', 'lirik lagu mahakarya cinta', 'motivation failing factor'. Adalah juga 'manfaat e-commerse', 'graf peningkatan umur remaja', 'jutawan kaya' (dah jutawan, kaya lg :P), 'jurusan perubatan', 'kecemasan pelajar menghadapi ujian' yang saya rasa agak lucu.

namun, sebilangan kecil yang buat saya tersentuh hati adalah mereka yg menaip 'bagaimana menghadapi kegagalan dalam hidup' dan 'pengajaran sebalik pengalaman'. carian seperti inilah saya saya ingin jemput lebih kerap ke blog saya. saya akan hasilkan tulisan yg lebih bmanfaat lagi pd masa akan dtg.

tak kurang juga dengan seorang hamba Allah ni yang selalu menaip Dare To Fail di google search engine. hampir setiap hari dia ada. Anda ke tu? :) apa-apa pun, saya ucap terima kasih daun keladi, esok datang lagi kerana memberi sokongan yg padu kpd saya :).

bilangan pengunjung pun telah bertambah, dari satu waktu dulu zero kepada 30--40 org sehari. alhamdulillah. ini jauh lebih baik dari rekod awal blog saya travel to malaysia yg saya dah hantar ke mcm2 direktori. saya juga rasa teruja, sbb itu satu motivasi bagi seorg penulis blog. saya menggalakkan anda menulis satu artikel setiap hari kalau anda suka melakukannya, sbb anda juga akn rasa surprise dgn hasilnya.

semoga kita berjumpa di suatu hari nanti. Amin.

INTO THE MILLIONAIRE MIND

There is more than one way to live this life. I am currently reading a motivational book entitled The Millionaire Mind, published by Bantam Book, authored by Thomas J. Stanley (2001), a professor of Georgia State University. He spends 34 years researching on the millionaire community. He is one of the modern days Napoleon Hill. His approach is academically oriented research while Hill concentrated on the philosophies and interviews with millionaires.

REAL vs MYTHS ABOUT MILLIONAIRES
What fascinating about the book is it uncovers the real life of millionaires, which most of time surprised me because it is 360degree different from what you see on TV. What kind of house a millionaire will look for when buying a new one? A new, modern house located at young neighborhood? Wrong. They prefer older house in older and friendly neighbourhood, because they believe it is better to purchase existed house than indulge into building business. Cost-effectiveJ. Anyway, who can assure the house really worth the asking price? There is no record yet. What about groceries? Do they go for expensive outlets? They prefer to shop for bulky goods at warehouse stores, they made shopping list, they repaired old shoes rather than buy a new one and most of them refinished their furniture rather than buy a brand new one. Well, that is not too difficult for us to do, isn’t it?

MODERATE LIVING
They live moderately below their earning. How about vacation? Paris, London, New York? Unlike the beauties and celebrities, only 4% skiing in Alps, 3% cruising around the world and 20% went to Paris with some of it subsidized by business purposes. 85% of them spent their nonworking time with tax consultant. Yeap. 86% of them visit the museum and 68% involved in community activities. I feel glad I’m an introvert.

ITS CREATIVE INTELLIGENCE THAT COUNT
These millionaires didn’t shine very much in schooldays (majority of them equals to CGP 2.6). Most of them were told they are not smart enough, too slow in learning and averaged in intelligence. But they are the type of people who think differently, find a niche business they love the most and have high creative intelligence.

THE KEY TO SUCCESS
The key is to think differently. They tend to look at things at different perspective. Rather than follow the crowd, they see a niche that can profit in the future and indulge their soul and energy to make it work. They are the type of students who give two answers and some descriptions in all objective test paper.

So that is what the millionaires do. Finally that makes sense to me what pakdi really wants to say about a classic video clip in his blog. The clip is about a few people who argue on the right formula for a math question. They really have different, silly calculation to get the same answer, just like the millionaires did. There is more than one way to live this life.watch this vid at pakdi's blog: Esprit De Corps

Focus Beyond Success

Many people get really anxious when studying for the exams such as the PMP (Project Management Professional) or CAPM (Certified Associate in Project Management) and so their anxiety works against them. The reason that they are anxious is largely because of their fear of failure. We could say that their belief in the likelihood of their failure is stronger that their belief in their success. In order to find a way out of this mess, it helps to know a little of how the mind works.

Everybody wants to be successful. Of course it could be argued that some people obviously want to fail in life – but that means that they want to be successful in failing. And so when they eventually DO fail, they succeeded in achieving their life’s main goal. And that’s a level of success that few of us achieve.

When aiming for a goal, it is very important to concentrate on the successful outcomes of your task, rather than on the goal itself. For example, if you are studying for the PMP exam, you should focus on what you intend to do once you have your certification, rather than just on having letters after your name. You should concentrate on the benefits after the goal is achieved, because your energy ends where you have your focus (I’ll come back to this later).

For example, suppose you are playing soccer and you have to take a penalty kick.
If you concentrate really hard on taking the kick, you will become anxious and may kick the ball badly.

The trick is to imagine that you have just scored the winning goal. Imagine the crowd cheering -- actually hear them in your mind -- and hear them calling your name. Imagine how good the success feels, and how proud of yourself you feel. Imagine the other soccer players running up to you and hugging you and congratulating you.

If you do this, then you will relax and actually score the goal.

Because if you can truly make your mind believe that you can truly make something happen, then your mind will do all that it can to make it happen (this is explained by “expectancy theory”).

So if you say to someone “study hard, and try hard to pass the exam,” that is a waste of time because they are already doing that, and concentrating more on the problems will make them anxious and doubt their abilities.

It is much better to get them to focus beyond the end result. Tell them to think about how good they will feel when they pass the PMP exam. And how good it will feel, pinning on the little gold badge.

Tell them to imagine how wonderful and proud they will feel the first day they step back into their place of work as a PMP, to give the good news to their boss.

Tell them to imagine that they’re being interviewed in the future by a reporter from a big magazine, because the magazine wants to print a feature article on their successes.
Tell them to imagine how good it feels to be so successful in life.
Once they believe that, it will start to happen.

Your energy ends where you have your focus

Now, coming back to this statement. It sounds “New age”, but it’s not. A long time ago I practiced karate for a while. This is a very relaxing sport, which seems to be largely concerned with smashing things. I was trying to break wooden planks, but with no success.

My understanding of the “formula” was:

Strength + technique + tough hands
= (whatever you like/don’t like) smashed to bits.

I had the strength and the tough hands; in fact I could hit the plank repeatedly without hurting myself too much, and the technique appeared to be right too.

But then, as a result of some research, I started really believing that I could break the plank.

So now my formula became:

Strength + belief + technique + tough hands = (whatever you like/don’t like) smashed to bits.

So I focused and my mental and physical energy on a single point on the plank (and pictured it breaking) then hit it really hard. But I still couldn’t break it.

Then some time later I met a really sweet girl, who had an incredible knack for smashing things, let me into her secret.
She said, “Your problem is that you are focusing on the plank, but that’s were your energy ENDS, because your energy ends where you have your focus. If you want to break the plank, you have to focus on a spot 6 inches BEHIND the plank.”

So once my focus (or goal) was to reach a spot behind the plank, my energy ended 6 inches behind the plank, rather than on it’s surface. I would like to say that I was able to smash the plank on my very next attempt. That was not the case, because I was still training my mind to accept the new focus. But only a few days later I was able to smash it.

And I would like to say that the girl and I developed a smashing relationship, but it was not to be, because her focus lay beyond me.


Jim Owens PMP is a career Project Manager, Presenter and PMP Instructor. Director of Certification with PMI W Australia, Columnist with www.PMHub.net and Information Age Magazine. Visit Jim at http://www.PromotePM.org The Home of Project Management. Read Jim's poetry at: http://www.MyLoveIsLike.com

KEBEBASAN KEWANGAN MELALUI JALAN IBADAH (part II)

BERAMAL DENGAN SELAWAT
Banyak sekali jenis selawat yang boleh di amalkan, namun selawat nabi juga sangat mustajab untuk kekayaan. Paling mudah dan praktis. Sabda Rasulullah SAW:

Siapa memperbanyak selawat kepadaku, maka Allah Taala akan menjadikan kaya kepadanya yang tidak akan fakir sesudahnya.

BERAMAL DENGAN ZIKIR DAN DOA
M. Ali Hassan Umar (1996) menyarankan, la khaula wa la quwwata illa billahil ‘aliyyil ‘azim, kalau dibaca setiap hari sebanyak 300x akan meluaskan rezeki, menghilangkan kesusahan serta menyembuhkan penyakit.
Melalui jalan doa, amalkanlah setiap kali selesai membaca Al Waqiah, bacalah sekali doa bagi surah tersebut.

KHASIAT WIFIK DAN RAJAH
Wifik dan rajah adalah samada huruf2, angka2, ayat-ayat yang merupakan wirid dan doa, sebahagiannya dalam bentuk diagram dan rajah. Ayat-ayat ini juga sebahagiannya adalah nama2 Allah, mana2 satu dari 99 nama Allah bergantung kepada khasiatnya. Wirid Asmul Husna biasa digunakan untuk memohon kepada Allah, sesuai dengan firman Allah dalam surah Al A’raf ayat 180:

Allah mempunyai asma-ul husna, maka bermohonlah kepadanya dengan menyebut asmaul husna itu.

Ramai orang agak skeptical untuk menggunakan wifik dan diagram. Barangkali kerana ia kelihatan seperti tajul muluk dan memiliki kuasa mistik luarbiasa yang merepek. Tetapi M. Ali Hassan Umar (1996) menerangkan, para ulama safussalihin ahlul hikmah wal makrifat, wifik dan rajah boleh juga di amalkan kerana mempunyai khasiat dan faedah yang besar. Ulama2 ini sudah melakukan percubaan2 dan pembuktian melalui amalan yang tekun dan atas dasar iman dan takwa, di sertai solat dan puasa. Bukanlah eksperimentasi kita yang biasa2 ini yang makan banyak bahan kimia, melihat perkara2 yang lagha’ dan hati kurang bersih.

Huruf2 dan angka2 tersebut adalah satu bidang ilmu hikmat yang tidak setiap orang dapat mengusai rahsianya. Itu terpulanglah kepada Allah Taala siapa yang dikehendakinya untuk mahir ilmu tersebut, dapat pula menghasilkan asas2 dan prinsip untuk dijadikan tunjuk ajar. Pernahkah anda terfikir mengapa orang cina memiliki diagram ying yang yang digantung di rumah dan mempercayai khasiat wifik mereka sendiri?

Tujuan saya mengupas buku ini adalah untuk memperkenalkan usaha2 dari segi amalan ibadah dan kerohanian, sesuai dengan pegangan kita bertunjangkan agama islam. Ada banyak lagi zikir, doa dan selawat lain, tetapi saya bercadang hanya untuk memperkenalkan jalan usaha yang boleh kita lakukan sahaja, serta contoh2nya. Anda haruslah mencari sendiri maklumat yang lengkap, contoh wifik dan rajah yang lebih jelas dan amalan yang bersesuaian dengan anda. Bagi saya secara peribadi, saya pernah mengamalkan 20 kali Al Fatihah selepas tiap2 solat mengikut saranan buku ini, demi mahukan beberapa perkara dimakbulkan. Selepas beberapa hari, saya dapat apa yang saya mahukan, beserta beberapa berita baik. Secara jujur, saya belum menjadikannya amalan harian.

RAHSIA JUTAWAN ISLAM TERBONGKAR
Mengulas tentang buku ini, semua jenis amalan yang disaran adalah majority amalan yang menuntut kesabaran untuk mengamalkannya. Anda perlu lakukan zikir beribu2, berpuluh ribu, berhari2 dengan kondisi tertentu. Maka anda sudah sepatutnya tahu, kekayaan dan kejayaan bukan durian runtuh, tuah yang datang bergolek. Begitu besar sekali harga kekayaan dari sudut rahsia islam sendiri. Namun begitu, islam mempunyai rahsia untuk mendapatkannya lebih cepat dari berpuluh2 tahun usaha, iaitu sertakan ibadat seperti ini.

Jika anda membaca buku Chef Li bertajuk Petunjuk Jalan Kekayaan, chef li bertemu dengan Pak Kiai Muhidin, jutawan Indonesia yang sangat warak dan menghabiskan banyak masanya berzikir dan beribadat. Kita mungkin terfikir, manakan dapat berjaya kalau hanya duduk meminta tanpa usaha gigih, namun pemikiran jutawan memang ada bezanya dengan orang biasa2. mereka tahu rahsia dan formula kejayaan. Mereka tahu jalan2 usaha gigih dan bagaimana untuk mendapatkan kebahagiaan hidup itu cara paling berkat sekali. Pak Kiai Muhidin lebih faham tentang rahsia rezeki yang berkat dan tidak putus-putus. Semoga ia menjadi teladan bagi kita.

Rujukan:
Amalan Murah Rezeki Kekayaan (1996) selenggaraan M. Ali Hassan Umar terbitan Darul Nu’man, Kuala Lumpur.
Petunjuk Jalan Kekayaan (2004) tulisan Dr Rusly Abdullah Ph.D terbitan Al-Ameen Serve Holdings Sdn Bhd, Kuala Lumpur.

KEBEBASAN KEWANGAN MELALUI JALAN IBADAH

Rezeki kekayaan yang di perolehi secara lapang, mudah, di redhai dan melimpah ruah merupakan impian setiap umat islam. Rahsia kekayaan yang terkandung dalam langit dan bumi, dari jalan yang tidak di sangka-sangka bukanlah durian runtuh. Tetapi usaha gigih dari jalan ilmu dan amal yang seiring.

Barangsiapa yang bertaqwa kepada Allah SWT
Nescaya Allah akan memberinya rezeki dari arah yang tidak di sangka-sangka.
(Al-quran, Surah Ath-Thalaq ayat 2-3)

Saya ingin mengupas rahsia sebuah buku, Amalan Murah Rezeki Kekayaan: Berdasarkan Ilmu Hikmat Islam selenggaraan M. Ali Hassan Umar. Menurut para imam dan masyayikh: Imam Al Ghazali, As Sayuti, Ahmad bin Ali Al Bunni, Ad Dairabi, Ad Dumairi, At Talsani, Al Marzuqi, As Syazili, Abdul Qadir Jilani An Nazili, dan lain-lain,
satu-satunya cara yang mujarab dan mustajab untuk menarik, melapangkan, mempermudah, memperlancar dan mempercepat datangnya rezeki dan kekayaan adalah dengan amalan rohaniah berkat khasiat Al Quran, sembahyang, puasa, selawat, zikir dan doa.

BERAMAL DENGAN AL QURAN
Ada pelbagai surah dalam Al Quran yang dapat meluaskan rezeki. Al Waqiah dapat menolak kefakiran, pastinya amalan untuk menjauhkan muflis dan kerugian besar dalam perniagaan atau pelaburan. Cara beramal adalah membacanya setiap hari, pagi atau petang. Berdasarkan riayat Abu Ubaid, Al Harits, Abu Ya’la, Ibnu Murdaih dan Al Baihaqiy dari Ibnu Mas’ud ra. Berkata, aku mendengar Rasulullah bersabda:
Siapa membaca surah Al Waqiah setiap malam maka tidak akan tertimpa kemiskinan, dan surah Al Waqiah itu merupakan surah yang menyebabkan kecukupan bagi pembacanya, maka bacalah dan ajarkan kepada anak-anakmu.

Juga boleh memperolehi kekayaan memdadak berkat rialat (tirakat) Al Waqiah, dengan melakukan perkara berikut:

1. Puasa 7 hari di mulai hari Jumaat
2. Setiap kali selesai solat fardhu, baca Al Waqiah 25 kali dan diakhiri malam Jumaat
3. Pada malam Jumaat yang penghabisan, baca sesudah solat maghrib sebanyak 25 kali. Lakukan ibadat amalan kebaikan sehingga masuk isyak. Selepas solat isyak, baca Al Waqiah sebanyak 125 kali. Kemudian baca selawat 1000 kali.
4. Selepas itu, setiap kali subuh dan maghrib, jadikanlah Al Waqiah itu wirid di baca sekali masing-masing. Dengan izin Allah akan berkatlah hasil surah tersebut.

Sukar? Tuan-tuan dan puan-puan, tiada jalan mudah untuk berjaya.

BERAMAL DENGAN PUASA & SOLAT
Saya petik salah satu amalan untuk memakmurkan hasil pertanian. Caranya dengan bangun malam sekitar jam 1, 2 atau 3 pagi, berwuduk dan solat hajat rakaat. Rakaat pertama, sesudah Al Fatihah bacalah Al Kafirun. Rakaat kedua, sesudah Fatihah baca Al Ikhlas. setelah salam, baca wirid ringan iaitu bismillah sebanyak 1000 kali. Selepas itu, berdoalah minta pertanian itu dapat hasil melimpah. Insya Allah, hasil akan berkembang sehingga menjadi kaya, banyak amal jariyah dan rajin beribadah.

Berpuasa untuk mencari pekerjaan bagi memudahkan rezeki adalah dengan puasa 2 hari pada hari khamis dan jumaat, minggu pertama dalam bulan Qomariyyah. Pada malam Jumaat ketika hendak tidur bacalah 3 ayat surah yusuf iaitu dari ayat 54-56. pada siang Jumaatnya sekitar jam 3 masih dalam keadaan puasa, tulislah ayat tersebut, lipat dan simpan denganbaik. Pada malam Sabtu menjelang tidur, bacalah la ila ha ilallah (1000x), subhanallah (1000x) dan astaghfirullah (1000x). Pada siang hari sabtu, gantung tulisan itu di luar rumah. Insya Allah, akan berjayalah anda mendapat pekerjaan.

Saya akan sambung lagi dengan usaha melalui selawat, zikir, doa dan khasiat wifik dan rajah. Tetapi perlu saya nyatakan di sini, amalan2 rohaniah seperti ini adalah satu bentuk usaha tawakkal. Anda masih perlu berusaha gigih dari segi material, praktikal dan teknikal, selain tawakkal. Kejayaan tidak datang bergolek, rezeki yang Allah janjikan tidak jatuh dari langit!

MAHAKARYA CINTA: Bagaimana Jutawan Memilih Permata

Kau bagaikan udara
Yang membantu aku untuk terus hidup di atas dunia
Tanpamu ku lemah
Pasti aku tak berdaya
Kerana kau mahakarya cinta

Petikan lirik lagu ‘Mahakarya Cinta’ dendagan Faizal OIM ini sangat indah. Selayaknya yang di sebut mahakarya cinta itu hanyalah Allah yang Esa, tapi cinta sesama insan juga bagaikan udara. Begitulah dengan memilih pasangan hidup adalah salah satu aspek penting tentang masa hadapan. Sudah tentu kita tidak mahu perkahwinan dan kekayaan hancur dengan talak, isu harta sepencarian, hak penjagaan anak dan sebagainya.

Dalam sebuah buku bertajuk ‘The Millionaire Mind’ karya Thomas J. Stanley, jutawan mempunyai kriteria2 tertentu dalam memilih pasangan. Dalam kajian beliau, ada 5 aspek utama yang di garis oleh jutawan. 94% jutawan (daripada 698 orang responden) mengatakan kejujuran adalah asek pertama. Diikuti dengan bertanggungjawab, penyayang, berkeupayaan dan pembakar semangat/supportive. Mereka tahu komponen-komponen perkahwinan yang kekal, rata2 telah berkahwin hampir 20-40 tahun dan komited dengan rumahtangga.

Apabila di minta untuk menggambarkan pasangan mereka, jawapan2 pertama jutawan adalah merendah diri, tidak pentingkan diri, ada nilai tradisional, sabar dan memahami. Mereka juga menjawab rupa paras, tetapi ia bukan satu2nya factor, serta mereka miliki naluri terhadap kualiti2 lain. antara 5 kualiti yang menarik minat jutawan kepada pasangan mereka dahulu ialah bijak, jujur, periang, boleh bergantung harap dan menarik. Bijak yang mereka maksudkan pula adalah the ability to learn and adjust to anything. Tidak semestinya dari segi tangga pendidikan.


Azizi Ali dalam bukunya ‘Jutawan dari Planet Jupiter’ meggariskan 4 cara ke arah kebebasan kewangan. Pertama kita bekerja, kemudian aset yang bekerja untuk kita, durian runtuh dan akhir sekali mengahwini wang. Marrying into Money. Walaupun pilihannya atas tangan anda, adalah lebih baik kalau aset yang bekerja untuk kekayaan kita sepanjang 24 jam. Tidak menjamin jalan bahagia jika mengahwini seorang lelaki/wanita kerana wang, kemudian ditinggalkan pada suatu hari nanti kerana orang lain yang lebih penyayang atau masih hidup bersama2 tetapi seperti orang asing.

Tidakkah islam sudah menggariskan criteria pasangan ideal untuk umat islam? Anda akan dapati ia serupa dengan ciri2 yang diceritakan oleh jutawan2 ini. Pertama dalam senarai adalah agamanya, kemudian keturunan, hartanya, rupa dan ilmu. Alangkah islam itu sudah memberi panduan kepada perkahwinan yang menyumbang kepada kejayaan hidup.

Kajian ini berbeza dari apa yang kita saksikan dalam akhbar dan media eletronik tentang kehidupan selebriti yang penuh kontrovesi. Pemikiran jutawan tentang hidup adalah berbeza dari orang kebanyakan, pendekatan mereka adalah keseimbangan hidup dan rasa bersyukur. Mereka juga golongan yang berbelanja secara wasatiah, bersederhana dan percaya atau tidak, mereka sebenarnya berbelanja dibawah kemampuan mereka! Maknanya rumah agam yang anda lihat itu hanyalah sekelumit dari pendapatan mereka.

Dapat disimpulkan, jutawan mempunyai ilmu dan panduan mencari pasangan hidup yang sepadan. Mereka percaya kepada perkahwinan yang kekal dan bahagia itu lebih seimbang dari hidup membujang atau bercerai-berai. Mereka percaya wujud korelasi yang selari antara perkahwinan yang berjaya dengan membina kekayaan.

FEAR OF FAILING

THE BIGGEST ENEMY OF SUCCESS
Why do we tend to make more excuses when feel afraid of failing? Excuses are always there. It is our nature to create ‘logical reasons’, ‘facts’ and ‘the truth’ to compliments the ‘fear of failing’ defense mechanism. Most of the time, we are not ready for the consequences. We don’t dare to take the pain, to hear the bad news or to risk the reputation. According to Mark Victor Hansen, the author of Dare To Win, F.E.A.R may be seen as acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself…~ Franklin D. Roosevelt.


FEAR DRAINS YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
Fear is human natural defense system; it is good in critical time. But be aware, this type of fear limits us from trying. It is the biggest enemy of success! It creates roadblocks, anxiety, guilt and defensive behavioral which lead to a dead-end. It paralyses your desire. The more we think we want to make a change, the more uncomfortable the issue becomes. Do you notice how fear corrodes your self-confidence, self esteem and ambition? As long as we let fear control us, we will never dare to fail, or win. What makes you afraid the most, fear of failure or fear of success?

Confront your fear, and you can make them disappears ~ Napoleon Hill


MOMENTUM AGAINST INERTIA
To overcome fear, you need momentum against inertia. Momentum is the energy to MOVE an object from immobile state to moving state. Inertia is the energy inside a still object which REFUSES TO CHANGE from staying still, into moving. Fear of failure, is principle of science, you know. So there is solution to it and you can free yourself from fear.

Success is not something you get too easy, well, so do in getting failure.

BREAK AWAY
the key is to overcome fear. whenever you are push into difficult situation, face the fear. automatically calm yourself, not paralyzed yourself. take it as you are. dont feel paralyzed by the thought of making mistakes, be cool after mistakes, remember it is a lesson. a part of success. think of doing whatever you can do to make it work. whenever you want to do something different, DARE yourself. what do you got to loose when you dare to try? loose you fear.

FULL METAL JACKET: the spirit of teamwork & leadership

teamwork and leadership are marriage made in heaven. how it is true. when i was a cadet, our coaching officers always emphasized on teamwork spirit and leadership quality.

i can still remember how my captain took it seriously.
when we were juniors, after a celebration on the end of annual training camp, we were supposed to regroup or we call it "roll-call" before dismissed. the rank holder counted our strength, and 3 of our squads were missing. they went home early to sleep, one of them went somewhere outside camp and they missed cleaning the place after party was over. we were tortured as long as they didnt return to the squads. my three poor friends get a loud slap across their faces. we felt pity for all the blame they had to take. and they felt guilty for putting everybody else into trouble.

flashforward after 3 years, we were in senior year. the final year is very critical for students, we have projects, datelines and tournament to entertain. all of us have personal commitements, we were torn between teamwork commitements and individual needs. without team spirit, our goal in tournament is nothing but a participation. Again we were tortured in the middle of the night and spend the night evaluate our priorities. it was not easy for everyone to settle on one decision, but right desicion making is number one in the list of winning the game.

a strong teamwork is crucial. different individual have different value and habit. we see discipline, ethic and commitement rather SUBJECTIVELY. when you think punctuality is very important, there are other people who dont take it serious. in order to syncronized the differences and bring people together, we need guidelines. to foster a team spirit needs leadership.

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Learn What Constitutes A Great Leader Then Become One Yourself
Leaders are born. Do you agree or disagree?

Sorry, there are no scientific proofs or guiding rules to substantiate this allegation.

Simply put, the potential to lead is based on the ability of a person to persuade or make others follow willingly. Leadership is a skill. Like any other skill, such as driving and biking, it can be learned.

Most of the well-known leaders started from zero, hardly knowing anything related to leadership. Others were even a burden to society until some twist of fate or circumstance brought forth their good side and provided the opportunity for them to show their leadership abilities.

If leadership can be acquired, it is worth considering what constitutes a great leader:

1. Some leaders did not plan to become one. They just made the right action at the right place and at the right time. A person who makes wise decisions and equates the right action in pressing times has the capacity to become a great leader.

2. The ability to command or delegate without coercion or intimidation is essential in a leader.

3. A leader takes responsibility for his follower's actions. This is under the principle of chain of command.

4. The attainment of objectives and welfare of his followers are of paramount importance to the leader.

5. Leaders do not have the monopoly of knowledge. In certain cases, the follower is more intelligent than the leader. This is especially true when it comes to specialized fields.

6. A leader knows how to give credit where it is due. He recognizes the help and inputs of his team and followers.

7. In making decisions, a leader must be objective. He seeks all information and listens to opinion of his team. From there, he makes his own decision.

8. A leader must know the best time to utilize monetary and non-monetary compensation to motivate followers to the achievement of the team's objectives. Uninspiring leaders only use material compensation to command obedience from his followers.

9. A leader knows how to capitalize on his followers' capabilities and strengths for the attainment of their objective.

10. A leader must be able to inspire others, show enthusiasm, and arouse interest among his followers.

Leadership is a skill that can be learned. It hones the persuasive abilities of a person in order to convince other people to take the best option.

With this checklist on hand, are you ready to lead? All you have to do is read the list and seek to apply each point in your everyday life. Pretend if you have to but do it. Do this and you will soon embody the skill of a leader.


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Abbas Abedi--Learn about hypnosis and self hypnosis, which can enhance your brain exponentially. Visit my Hypnosis blog.

'Dopey' Sylvester Stallone- Made his Dream of Stardom a Must

Surely one of the best examples of the power of commitment and how 'doing whatever it takes will get you what you want' is the story of Sylvester Stallone.

At his peak, Stallone was one of the most popular and highly paid stars in Hollywood, commanding a fee of US$20m per movie. Was he just born under a lucky star? Was he a naturally talented actor? Was he at the right place at the right time? Hardly. He was someone who seemed to have all the odds stacked up against him.

His family was so poor that his mother had to give birth to him on the doorsteps of a school. A blotched delivery by students caused a facial nerve to be severed, leaving him paralyzed on the right side of his face. As a result, Stallone had to live the rest of his life with slurred speech. He even had to deal with having a drooping lower lip and being made fun of because of his name 'Sylvester' (associated with the Looney Tunes cat). Despite all these limitations, young Stallone dreamed of becoming an actor and inspiring millions of people through his movies.

As you know many young people go through a phase of wanting to be an actor, a star, the difference between Stallone and the rest of youthful dreamers was that his dream was not a merely wishful thinking. To Stallone, it was an absolute must. He was truly committed to doing whatever it took to make it happen.

First he enrolled in acting school and then started going for auditions. Predictably, with his wooden acting, his dopey looks and his slurred speech, Stallone was rejected for every part he applied for. But he never gave up. Doggedly he just kept changing his strategy and taking action.

The way he landed his first part is a fine example of how he was willing to do whatever it took. When he was rejected after yet another audition, he pulled up a chair in front of the manager's office and sat down, refusing to leave unless they gave him a chance. After sitting there for hours, they were so moved by how much he wanted a chance that they relented and gave him a part. Although he appeared for a couple of minutes (as an extra), it gave him that first breakthrough he was after.

Unfortunately, that experience was followed by yet another string of unsuccessful attempts at getting another acting job. At that point, his wife told him to give up his 'stupid dream' and get a real job. His reply was, 'If I get another job, I would lose the only thing I have got going for me, my hunger.' 'By quitting and getting a job, I would be selling out on my dream'.

Stallone eventually wound up so broke and desperate that he was forced to sell his dog for $50 in order to survive. It was the saddest moment in his life because his dog was the one friend he had got left.

At this, the lowest point in his life, he watched a boxing match between then world heavyweight champion Muhammed Ali and Chuck Wepner, an underdog that everyone thought would be defeated within three rounds. What no one expected was Wepners' determination and tenacity. He lasted the total of fifteen rounds with Ali, just refusing to go down.

Sly was so inspired by what he saw that he had visions in his head about a movie that he was going to write. He started writing profusely for 72 hours non-stop until he finished the manuscript for 'Rocky'. He was so excited by the script because in his mind he knew that this was going to be the movie that would change his life and his fortune.

But when he went round attempting to sell his script, everyone felt that it was too predictable and that nobody would be interested in watching a movie about boxing. But he didn't give up. He kept on going and going until one company made him an offer of 125,000 for the script and the rights to make the movie. This should have made Sly overjoyed but his dream was to be an actor and not a writer.

So, he told them that the condition of sale was that he be cast as the lead actor. They objected saying, 'You're a writer! you're not an actor!' 'There is no way we will let you act!' But Sly stood his ground and refused to sell the script if he wasn't the lead actor. They even increased their offer to $250,000, but Sly kept insisting that he fitted the role of 'Rocky', and no one else. Although he was broke and hungry, he refused to sell out his dream for a six- figure pay check. That was his level of commitment!

Eventually they reluctantly agreed, on the condition that the movie be made on a shoe string budget of less than a million dollars and Stallone would get only $35,000 for the writing, directing and acting. Sly would however, get a percentage of the profits, if the movie made money. He agreed immediately.

The first thing Sly did when he got his money was to go in search of the man who bought his dog to buy it back. When he finally tracked down the man, he offered to buy his dog back for $100. The man declined his offer saying that he was not interested. Sly upped his offer to $500. Still the man refused. Sly again upped his offer, this time to $1000. The man still would not budge saying, 'No amount of money will ever convince me to sell this dog.'

While most of us would give up at this point, Sly knew that if he was committed to do whatever it takes, he would find a way. Eventually he did get his dog back. He paid the man a whopping $15,000 and also gave him a part in the movie as part of the deal.

When Rocky was launched at the box office, it grossed over $225 million and was nominated for ten academy awards (including best actor), eventually winning an Oscar for Best Picture & Best Director. Sylvester instantly shot to fame as an action star and lucrative offers came in for future blockbusters, which were to eventuate in First Blood, Rambo and the Rocky sequels. His eventual success came from the fact that to him, becoming an actor was truly a must. He believed that when you are committed enough, there is always a way!


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CHEF LI: MENJEJAKI JUTAWAN SENYAP

Saya ingin mengulas buku motivasi ini kerana (Dr Rusly bin Abdullah PhD) Chef Li mengutarakan konsep kejayaan yang sepadan dengan tema blog saya. Chef Li memberi inspirasi kepada insan biasa supaya mengejar kejayaan hidup dengan sabar dan mulakan secara kecil-kecilan. Walaupun bukunya yang masyhur ini sudah lama berada di pasaran, tetapi manfaatnya tidak ada istilah luput.


“Anda patut menjadi kaya. Anda tidak berhak menjadi miskin. Hidup di Malaysia tetapi tidak kaya adalah malang” ~ Chef Li



JUTAWAN SENYAP?
Siapakah jutawan-jutawan senyap yang di singkap oleh Chef Li dalam buku-bukunya? Istilah jutawan senyap di sini adalah golongan insan yang sudah mencapai tahap jutawan, tetapi tidak dikenali, langsung tidak glamour, dan mungkin tidak dikenalpasti oleh masyarakat. Jutawan Senyap ini menjalankan peniagaan yang tidak sensasi seperti peniaga pasar malam, penjaja di lorong-lorong kecil, peniaga jalanan yang tidak di pandang orang. Sebahagian mereka buta huruf, tamat darjah enam, janda atau ibu tunggal.

Tidakkah itu membuatkan anda terfikir bagaimana mereka melakukannya? Pertama sekali, Chef Li memperkenalkan anda kepada golongan misteri ini, kisah duka mereka dan bagaimana mereka melakukannya. Chef Li memberi petunjuk kepada anda bagaimana untuk mengenal mereka serta memahami konsep perniagaan betul. Tiada gunanya bisnes yang besar itu kalau keuntungannya kecil. Untuk memahami rahsia kejayaan ini anda perlu melihat dengan teliti dan membetulkan persepsi anda tentang perniagaan.

KISAH TELADAN UNTUK PEMBAKAR SEMANGAT
Melalui kisah-kisah kejayaan mereka ini, kita dapat memahami perniagaan dari ertikata etika dan sikap yang betul. Sikap itu yang membawa perniagaan tersebut menjadi atau hancur. Saya dapat memahami kegigihan billionaire bumiputera, Tan Sri Bukhari dari perjalanannya sebagai anak kampong sehingga bergelar billionaire. Chef Li memberi panduan bagaimana untuk memiliki semangat yang besar dan melupuskan segala rasa malu, rendah diri dan takut gagal.

Barangkali masih ramai diantara kita yang mempunyai tanggapan kerja pasar malam, tanam sayur, bela ayam dan jual cendol itu tidak ada potensi dan masa depan. Pelajar-pelajar di universiti juga tidak terlepas dari pemikiran tersebut sebenarnya. Berapa ramai yang tamat pengajian dan menulis resume berbanding yang tamat pengajian dan menulis kertas kerja projek. Walau pun begitu, kecenderungan masing-masing adalah sesuatu yang kita harus terima sebagai subjektif. Apa yang saya ingin sampaikan disini adalah, rezeki yang tidak di pandang orang itu kadang kala adalah rahmat yang tidak di singkap, di bongkar dan di selongkar oleh manusia.

Saya sangat-sangat mengesyorkan buku ini sebagai penunjuk jalan bagi teman-teman yang mencari haluan mula dalam perniagaan. Chef Li sendiri telah menyedari kewujudan golongan jutawan senyap ini semasa beliau bekerja sebagai pegawai bank dan bertemu ramai insan yang seumpamanya. Beliau sanggup berhenti dari pekerjaannya dan memulakan peniagaan pasar malam kerana ingin mengubah masa depannya. Kini, beliau adalah pengasas kepada institute teknologi kulinari Anjung Utara (ITKAU) dan pakar motivasi yang banyak memberi inspirasi pada orang lain.

Bukunya yang berjudul “MENJEJAKI JUTAWAN SENYAP” adalah terbitan Al-Ameen Serve Holdings Sdn Bhd. Setebal 222 muka surat berharga RM29.00 (semenanjung) @ RM 32.00 (sabah/sarawak). Untuk maklumat lanjut anda boleh layari www.ameenbooks.com.my serta website ITKAU di www.itkau.edu.my.

Sampai manakah kesabaran kita

jundulloh menulis "MENYINGKAPI MARAH"

Kita semua tahu tentang perasaan marah. Kita akan menjerit dan berteriak malah sanggup menampar dan menyakiti seseorang yang kebiasaannya kita sayang dan ambil berat. Namun kita tidak peduli dan ambil berat perasaan tersebut. Menurut kajian didapati setiap seorang daripada empat orang penduduk U.K adalah sebenarnya menghadapi risiko disebabkan oleh perasaan marah ini.

Kajian itu juga mendapati 1 daripada 10 orang hilang kawalan terhadap kemarahan sekurang-kurangnya sekali sehari. Ramai daripada kita yang berpendapat bahawa dengan meluahkan perasaan marah itu keluar adalah salah satu jalan terbaik untuk mengatasi rasa marah yang melampau. Itu tak semestinya.

CEPAT MARAH, CEPAT MATI
Kata seorang ahli psikologi dari North Carolina, U.S iaitu Profesor Redford Wiliams di Duke University. Pengkaji di Duke telah membuat kajian terhadap pelajar-pelajar di sana dari jurusan perubatan dan undang-undang. Hasilnya mereka mendapati pelajar- pelajar ini boleh dipecahkan kepada 2 golongan utama iaitu satu kumpulan yang mempunyai kecenderungan yang tinggi untuk hilang kawalan kesabaran sementara satu kumpulan lagi bersifat pasif.
Wiliam mendapati untuk satu tahap masa yang diperhatikan hanya seorang daripada 50 orang orang dari kumpulan PASIF itu meninggal dunia berbanding 1 dari 5 orang dari satu kumpulan yang lekas hilang kawalan kesabaran. Kata Wiliam,"Nampaknya marah itu suatu faktor besar yang merendahkan tahap kemampuan kita untuk melawan penyakit".

Beliau juga menunjukkan bahawa pesakit jantung di hospital akan dapat keluar dari hospital lebih awal sekiranya mereka diajar untuk mengawal perasaan marah mereka. Dan hasil kajian daripada pengkaji U.K dan U.S beliau percaya bahawa kita sebenarnya meletakan diri kita dalam keadaan berisiko untuk mendapat penyakit semata-mata kerana perasaan marah yang tidak dikawal.

DEFENSE MECHANISME
Seorang ahli psikologi, Joe Griffin (Mindsfield College in Sussex) menerangkan bahawa marah itu suatu tindakan respon kecemasan "lawan atau lari" (fight or flight) yang berguna untuk tindakan kita keluar daripada sesuatu bahaya.
Namun ia boleh dicetuskan pada masa lain untuk sesutu tujuan yang merosakan dan membinasa. "Apabila kita marah,asid lemak dikeluarkan ke aliran darah dan darah kita dipam dengan lebih cepat. Apabila kita berada di meja kerja,aliran darah yang cepat itu menyebabkan tekanan darah kita meningkat dan akan sampai ke tahap kita akan menghadapi serangan jantung." Sebelum itu, kemarahan yang melampau juga boleh membawa kepada sakit kepala yang berulangan dan insomnia.

Menurut Joe Griffin, ini sebenarnya kerap kali boleh diatasi dengan cara kaedah terapi. Mereka perlu patuh kepada terapi yang dijalankan itu. Kita boleh mengajar mereka kemahiran perhubungan yang lebih baik dan kemahiran komunikasi untuk menolong mereka menyelesaikan segala selisih faham tanpa perlu marah!" Bagaimana untuk mengawal kemarahan? Jawapan Oleh Wiliams.

KAWAL MARAH
1. Kita perlu mengatasi rasa marah itu sebelum ia merebak lebih jauh yang akhirnya akan sukar dikawal. Memahami apa yang menyebabkan kita rasa marah itu adalah penting.Kerap kali kita kecewa dan marah terhadap perkara yang remeh walaupun tak sepatutnya kita kita letak perasaan marah itu terhadap perkara tersebut.

SESUAI ATAU TIDAK?
2. Kemudian tanya diri kita sama ada perasaan marah itu berketepatan dengan perkara itu. Adakah setiap manusia normal seperti kita perlu berasa marah terhadap hal begitu?Kalau jawapannya adalah YA maka tanya diri anda apa yang anda boleh buat? Kita mungkin terperangkap dalam kereta api yang sedang meluncur laju. Namun apa lagi yang boleh kita buat? Adakah perlu kita terjun keluar dari kereta api tersebut? Oleh itu tidak perlulah kita berasa terlalu kecewa.

PERLUKAH JADI MARAH?
3.Cuba anda jawab soalan terakhir ini. Adakah perlu sangat dan penting kita marah? Jika anda menjawab soalan itu dengan jujur dan YA maka anda perlu mengambil beberapa tindakan yang mengiyakan jawapan anda itu. Namun sekurang-kurangnya anda harus memutuskannya pada keadaan fikiran yang rasional.


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Sharpen Your Intuition And Grow Rich

Intuition, is it something you use? Maybe you call it by a different name. Gut feeling. The little voice inside your head. A hazy image that passes before your eyes. You blink and wonder if you are seeing things. Or you know an outcome with certainty. Before receiving confirmation by phone or person. Like a mother who wakes up suddenly in the night. She knows something is wrong with one of her children.

These are all expressions of intuition. I feel that it is very important that we start listening to our intuition now. Start to re-learn this language. Start to become fluent in its many subtle nuances and syntax. Why? Because we need new ways of thinking beyond our current thought paradigms. Our global problems need solutions that emanate from a higher level of consciousness. Intuition is like hearing messages from a higher consciousness. From the heart. From the soul. From the universe. It reveals our inner truths. Our universal truths. Yet it gets mixed up with head thinking. My head gets filled up with lists of things. Things I need to do. Things I should do. Things I don't wanna do. Lots of doo-doo.

Technology is speeding up our head thinking. Faster images. Quicker music. annoying txt messages. More advertising channels. More buttons to press. More stuff coming in. Attention span is getting very short. Hence the head struggles to take it all in. I ask myself, where is the melody of life? Too much rapid movement and loud noise. Boom, boom, boom.

So lets look at ways you can access your intuition.

1. Take A Walk In Nature.
Get away from the computer. Turn off the cell phone. Go for a walk within nature. Just be among nature. Your body, your head, your soul longs to hear the sounds and silence of nature. The song of the birds. The whispers of the wind. The breaking of the wave. The silence between the sounds. The silence between your thoughts. Go there now. Your intuition will speak when the head is silent.

2. Clean Up Your Energy Fields.
If your personal or professional life is stressful and soul-destroying than this will affect your energy fields. Your thoughts and emotions are like bioelectrical currents that radiate out from your body. Polluted toxic thinking creates dirty energy fields. It comes through in your words, your thoughts and outlook on life. How many negative people do you know? Do you like being around them when they complain and moan about life. Be careful because you will pick up their negative energy vibrations. Eventually they will pollute your thinking unless you consciously keep your energy fields clean. Deep breathing combined with isometric tension movements are very good ways of cleaning your energy fields. You can even do this when you are out in nature.

3. Start To Speak To Intuition Language.
You must learn to speak and understand your own intuition. Remember the times when you have sensed an outcome before it happened. Or had a bad feeling about a person or situation. Later your feeling was proved correct. Just remember these times. Identify the subtle nuances and syntax in which your intuition communicated with you. Maybe it was a tight feeling in your belly. Or a tiny voice that spoke within your mind. Not the usual mind chatter. Or an image that appeared in a dream. Then you saw it the next day. These are all signs and symbols that you must learn to trust. Each person will have their own intuition language. Yet it will be like learning a new language. Frustrating at first but satisfying when you can converse easily and sincerely.

Your intuition is like the language of the inner self. It can open doors to your palace of higher wisdom. Start now to share your riches with the rest of the world.


About the Author:
Hirini Reedy is a Maori metaphysicist, former military officer, martial arts founder and personal coach. He combines ancient Maori wisdom with modern teachings at http://www.maori-secrets.com
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The secret: REVEALED

Inspiring. Motivating. Excites to infinity. What is it that makes THE SECRET is a powerful documentary of success?

Last night I accepted an invitation to watch ‘the secret’ from a friend. She’s currently doing an MLM business, and the Kuching branch is screening the movie at their business centre. This girl came to my house cycling one evening, and invites me to watch this documentary called ‘the secret’. What caught my attention is when she says the film reveals the secret of millionaire’s mind. It is a series of interviews with the millionaires.

So last night, I went to the centre with her. We arrived late and the movie was already running almost 20 minutes. There were almost 100 attendees and all of them look absolutely content with the movie.

THE TECHNICAL PART
It is indeed a documentary, series of motivational speech from highly successful people who walk the talk. Each story was narrated in interesting way with vivid images, playback, synchronized audiovisual along with powerful messages. Unfortunately, I can’t read the speaker names because I was sitting at the backseat and without my eyeglasses. But I can remember the motivational speakers are millionaires, businessman, ex-cancer patient, famous author etc.

THE SECRET INGREDIENT
The secret ingredient for this film is the concept of ‘The Law of Attraction’. Law of attraction reveals to you that your mind is a magnetic field. If you think of negative thought, you attract negative results. If you build a castle in the sky, you live in it and believe in it, you will achieve those dreams. Sounds too exaggerating? No, no my friend. Not after you watch the film yourself.

The secret is all about POWERFUL VISUALIZATION. these speakers assure you all you need to become successful is imagining you are already successful. you imagine driving your favourite car while sitting in your favourite couch. you imagine your dream house by drawing them in your notebook. you can feel the air of your wealth wherever you breath. although you own nothing yet to this moment, you BELIEVE what you visualize is ABSOLUTELY REAL.


i believe all of us can afford to do that, no matter how unfortunate we seems to be at the moment. Remember to put the foundation to the palace that you build in the sky.

i have so much to share with you about the high-impact movie, my story will go endless and endless. its a valuable experience to actually watch it yourself. if i could get the DVD, i want to play it 24-7, ordered dozens of it and give one to you absolutely for free.

my friend told me the DVD are exclusive. the movie is not for sale to the public and only those who own the permit is permissable to own the DVD. it is only available to the authorized people and their leaders dont even know how they can get the DVD.

but i believe we can get the movie anyhow.

How Learned Happiness Can Overcome Acquired Fear

Carefully, silently he peers around the corner and when the air is clear he ducks and dashes from one safe place to the next. His habitual reaction is ‘flight’. At the slightest unexpected movement or sound, he saves his hide – fast as a flash and silent as a mouse…. In the five years little Ben has been with us, there hasn’t been a single incident that endangered his life or harmed him in any way. Yet he is always on the run and trusts only one person and sits only in one lap.

He was a rescue cat; a half starved, abused and sick little creature – saved from feline hell just in time to survive. Now, he’s safe in a haven of gentle caring and still he scuttles, dashes and runs. It took me a while to understand that Ben doesn’t run because he’s afraid anymore, he runs because that’s what he has always done. The fear he acquired has turned into a habit that defines everything he does.

Even when the house is quiet and no one else is around, this little black fur ball doesn’t stride gracefully like any other cat, he moves like a flash and at best he trots. For the first 9 months of his life, that’s what assured him survival and now, long after the causes have been forgotten, the behaviour continues – a habit acquired through fear.

Watching him makes me realise how the experiences from early childhood create habits that become deeply ingrained – how unconsciously they influence everything we do. It also gives me a profound sense of gratitude that unlike that driven little cat we humans have a choice of replacing acquired fear with learned happiness.

Whether our early childhood years were marked by happy memories, safe surroundings and confident comfort or whether we had to dash and dive, undoubtedly these experiences will influence our self-esteem as much as our perception of the world as a safe place. And until the moment we realise that we do have a choice on how we allow these early years to influence our lives, we are pretty much their prisoners.

But then, when we understand that it is within our power to let go of the fear and learn joyfulness instead, something incredible happens.

We stop running, scuttling and hiding and we let go of the need to blame. As the realisation of our own power increases, the force that once dragged us back into the past diminishes. That’s when we begin to gracefully glide through life. But how do we ‘learn’ to be happy?

First, by making the simple decision to be joyful; and then by committing to follow this path ‘no matter what’. The great times will be when we are distracted by happy experiences and forgetting about the past is easy to do. But the moments will come when it all floods back and wallowing in what ‘was’ will seem the only thing possible. That’s fine – accept it and then decide to be happy again.

Make it easy for yourself by developing your personal joyfulness strategies – healthy ones, not the chocolate-by-the-pound kind. Write a list of things that would make you really happy and create a plan on how to use them when you need to.

My happy hormones flood my system when I take a long brisk walk, when I dance or sing along with a favourite tune, when I look at an image of something really beautiful or share special moments with a special person.

By making the conscious decision to let go of the less happy memories from my own past, I have learned to be joyful. I feel free of blame, guilt and resentment. On a good day, I glide through life like the cat who ate the cream – fearless, happy and free.


About the Author:
Annett Tate helps people transcend their anger through her "Subtle Energy" seminars and coaching. Her website is a treasure trove of information on stress management, relaxation, meditation, self-hypnosis, and much more.
www.stress2bliss.com

Meraih Peluang Kedua

Sukarkah untuk meraih peluang kedua selepas melakukan kesilapan?

ramai org takut pada kegagalan. kerana percaya tidak mampu meraih peluang kedua dalam hidup. saya ingin ceritakan satu kisah yang saya alami dari perbualan dengan seorg pelajar junior di universiti saya.

semester ini saya harus bekerjasama scr kerja kumpulan dgn junior2 course saya untuk menyiapkan tugasan yg d beri. Semasa meeting kami yg kedua, seorg ahli tidak muncul. salah seorg rakannya memberitahu saya tidak perlulah terlalu bergantung kpd ahli tersebut untuk menyiapkan tugasan, kerana nasibnya di universiti belum pasti lg. Saya terdiam sejenak, kemudian melahirkan rasa simpati. Walaupun saya tidak tahu apa yg terjadi, tetapi saya faham pelajar ini dlm situasi yg sukar & bersendirian.

semalam adlh hari terakhir kami bekerjasama. saya memerhatikan pelajar ini agak pendiam dan tidak mahu menimbulkan byk masalah dlm kumpulan. dia blh memberikan komitmen kepada apa2 kerja yg diberi. pada hari tersebut, saya bertanya padanya apakah perkembangannya sekarang?

pelajar ini menceritakan dia menunggu keputusan seorg datuk. apa yg dpt d lakukannya ialah merayu kpd datuk tersebut utk meringankan hukumannya dan membenarkan dia menduduki peperiksaannya semester ini. dia teruskan jg belajar dan dtg kuliah walaupun keputusan universiti adlh sebaliknya. Buat masa ini dia enggan memikirkan apa kata org lain.apabila pulang ke bilik, dia hanya mahu memikirkan nota2nya shj. surat universiti yg sampai ke rmh tdk d berikan pd ibubapanya. dia memendamnya sendirian.

saya tahu keadaan ini amat sukar baginya. saya katakan teman saya yg d berhentikan universiti pun melakukan hal ini. mereka tidak dpt menceritakan perkara sebenar kerana ia terlalu pahit. dia terkejut. dahulu saya pun memberi reaksi yg sama. saya berikan cth2 teman2 saya yg senasib dgnnya, bagaimana mereka melalui saat2 sukar itu dan bagaimana keadaan mereka sekarang. salah seorg mereka sudah pun menjadi CEO syarikatnya semasa datang pd pentauliahan kami. kami semua slim2, hangus dan cengkung, teman saya ini datang dgn BMW, tunangnya yg cantik, dan perutnya yg ke depan.

pelajar ini memberitahu, partner in crimenya meninggalkan dia sendirian menanggung semua kesalahan. dia sangat marah dan tiada sesiapa dpt menolong. dia pernah terfikir utk terjun bangunan. ia begitu perit baginya kerana makin tinggi kita naik, semakin tinggi tempat menjunam. walaupun begitu, pelajar ini optimis. dia tdk mahu tersungkur. biar kesalahannya yg telah berlalu d jadikan pengajaran berguna dan dia mahu teruskan hidup.

pelajar ini adalah contoh insan yg sedang melalui kegagalan dgn tabah dan sabar. keadaan yg sukar sedang berlaku dlm hidupnya pd waktu ini, tetapi dia menerima kesilapannya dan tlh mula merancang langkahnya pd masa akn dtg.

saya meluahkan rasa kagum dgn kesabarannya dan berharap itu tidak mematahkan semangatnya utk bersaing d universiti ini. Saya berikannya URL ke website billy lim. Supaya apa saja berita buruk selepas ini tidak membuatkannya melompat dari bangunan.

DE SECRET: DO YOU UNDERSTAND THE SECRET MOVIE

this is a post from my friend franxbudi about the movie "THE SECRET". i am very excited to see the movie tomorrow night, an invitation from my Lampe Berger buddy. and i know this must be a powerful documentary to sparks motivation.

It worth the click :)
DE SECRET: DO YOU UNDERSTAND THE SECRET MOVIE